The Empowerment of Self – 3
You are the key to your own happiness.
Many people leave this world without having experienced true happiness. With so many ideas of what happiness is, the true meaning gets lost in translation. We have built up an illusion that only a few can experience true happiness, and that we need “things” to make us happy. Anyone and everyone has been promised happiness and we all deserve it. It is our birthright!
Happiness is nothing but a feeling and a state of mind. Life is a roller coaster ride that never seems to stop; we go through ups and downs everyday of our lives. It’s how we react to them that matters, which in turn determines how our lives are shaped. Our idea of happiness is linked to material things and we have this notion that we can only be happy once we gather certain things in our lives. This means if we die not attaining those things we would have lived meaningless lives. It has been proven that accumulation of wealth and material belongings isn’t in fact the cause of happiness. Some people can have all the money and material things but still be unhappy, others can have little to nothing but still be the happiest. You can experience pain and sorrow but still be happy. You can be upset and frustrated, and still be in a happy place as far as your life is concerned. This then becomes proof enough that happiness really lies within us.
Happiness in the context of mental and emotional states is correlated to positive or pleasurable emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy. True happiness is enjoying your own company and living in peace and harmony with your body, mind and soul.
“Happiness is the consequence of personal effort. You fight for it, strive for it, insist upon it, and sometimes even travel around the world looking for it. You have to participate relentlessly in the manifestations of your own blessings. And once you have achieved a state of happiness, you must never become lax about maintaining it. You must make a mighty effort to keep swimming upward into that happiness forever, to stay afloat on top of it.” ― Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love.
We are so overwhelmed with so much misery and distraction that we never take time to really appreciate that which we have, who we are and how God provides for us. We pray “Give us this day our daily bread” but we don’t even recognise it when it’s provided. We often only put our focus on the things that are going wrong in our lives, things we want but don’t have, negative things people have done to us and how they have made us feel. Happiness is majorly linked to a sense of being thankful, grateful, and appreciative. It’s a sense of being content with ourselves and our lives with a great understanding of the peace within ourselves and the comfort of knowing that everything is just OK.
My message to you:
You can set yourself free from the bondages of sorrow and distress. You need to remind yourself everyday of what counts and what doesn’t count. Don’t be distracted by what’s inconsequential and petty in life. Take care not lose your joy over small things. Remember that some battles are not yours to fight, hand them over to God and focus on what’s important to you. Every day, remind yourself of the grace of God, and rest in it. We give so much attention to things that don’t deserve it. Always ask yourself “Is this worth my time and energy”? How much of what I’m worrying about right now is going to matter tomorrow? Be in a position to recognise what does and doesn’t serve you – people included! Take time to evaluate your life and decide what’s good and bad for you. Once that’s done, cut all the bad out.
You are a work in progress and the attainment of true happiness is a journey, however, it all starts with the decision to be happy and recognising what makes you happy. Let go of things you cannot change and do your best always, the rest will take care of itself.
I hope this topic touched you and encouraged you to see life in a more positive light.
– Siphokazi Lunika