After spending the whole month in and out hospital due to complications following an operation to extract two impacted wisdom teeth I decided to take some time away and go recharge my batteries. Packed my work and off I went to the warm heart of Africa, Malawi. For those who don’t know Malawi formerly known as a Nyasaland is a small country landlocked in Mozambique, Zambia and Tanzania.
“Your NOT YET, is greater than your right now!”
– Dr. Eddie M. Connor, Jr.
I recently spoke at a youth event, promoting financial literacy and personal wealth. After my speech, one of the youngest attendees in the audience came up to me. As the little boy ran to me, he gave me a high 5 and said, “I want your shoes.” After discovering the boy was 6 years old and realizing that it would take him years, to grow into my size 12’s…I sarcastically said, “You don’t want my shoes little bro, you’ve got the money to buy your own.” He replied, “I can’t buy any shoes right now, because I’m not a millionaire yet.”
@mallyzn shares on Creating Your Future at Investec this past weekend
Creating your future is not about dreaming on where you see yourself but its also about being careful what you post on social media.
Here is a WARNING: It may look like fun now, you are the cool kid amongst your friends, get 1000 likes on pictures and you are a Feleb.
“When we are liberated from our own fears, our presence automatically liberate others”
You know how the say you get to understand the lyrics of a song and its meanings when you’re sad. A year I decided to write my own memoir but halfway through I started battling to finish it.
No I didn’t run out of content but the journey forced me to open some wounds, wounds that to heal needed me to confront them head on. When I started writing this said book it was fun, so fun that I’d sometimes stay up the whole night writing.
I am smart enough to know that I am different
“I am smart enough to know that I am different from everyone but also smart enough to know that I am not better than anyone”
Mandela once said education is a powerful weapon which can be used to change the world. It is true that education can change your life for the better – for instance, being educated can get you a job which can improve your lifestyle.
Break the status quo
“Today is a new day. Don’t let your history interfere with your destiny. Let today be the day that you stop being a victim of your circumstances and start taking actions towards the life you want. You have the power and the time to shape your life. Break free from the poisonous victim mentality and embrace the truth of your greatness. You are not meant for a mundane or mediocre life” Steve Maraboli. These are the words that I meditate to on a daily basis and today they were somehow brought to life when I went through an article in a local newspaper where the journalist went to visit the families of the four alleged murderers of the Mozambican national Emmanuel Sithole in the township of Alexandra a few weeks ago.
I learnt the hard way…
25 April 2014 got a ticket to attend Millioniare to Billioniare Seminar held at Sandton Convention Centre, I had a platinum tickets(Worth R6998) which meant having lunch with the speakers and it was an opportunity I wouldn’t miss.
I don’t like dogs. To a large extent, I’m irritated by them. They’ve been coined ‘man’s best friend’ and I often wonder how this came into being. I’ve been told that they’re happy when they wag their tails and pant. I don’t get it; to me it looks like their preparing to come for me. What is it about dogs that brings comfort and joy to so many people that I can’t imagine possible for myself? I can concede to the fact that some of them are cute, like the poodles and the chihuahuas. They stay in their lane and they’re harmless. I prefer them. They’re obedient and so I never have to worry about them stepping out of line.
Being an introvert in a world that doesn’t stop talking
In her book “Quiet, The power of introverts in a world that can’t stop talking” Susan Cain describes an introvert as someone who prefers less stimulating environments than their extroverted neighbours, tending to enjoy quiet concentration and listening more that talking. I have mentioned before that growing up I have always been an over achiever therefore I always took part in extra-mural activities at school and that included drama and public speaking. The rest of my high school years I was part of the debate society. It was one of the things that I enjoyed so much besides academics.
Because of these many people find it hard to believe me everytime I say I’m an introvert but after listening to why they classify me as an extrovert it kinda makes sense. There is a misconception that introverts are shy and lack confidence which is why it’s hard for them to believe that I am one. You see, we are nowhere near shy nor are we anti-social. In actual fact when we do go to parties we become the life of the party for a young minute and from there our brains just switch to the other things, not that we are bored but at some point in the midst of all this socializing we need to retreat and recharge in our own company.
When I first started my business I was told that for me to succeed I need to be out there, talk more they said, network more and most importantly make your presence felt. What most people don’t realise is that, it’s not that introverts don’t talk more, we are very excellent with questioning and like to dig more. What makes us different though it’s that we are drawn to meaningful conversations than superficial chitchats. I am more comfortable writing than talking which is why most of my job in in writing but best believe I can speak just as well as I can write.
There are people who are confident talking about football, weather and other inane topics but as introverts that is total torture, it is like asking us to walk barefoot on hot coal. But being in business I have learnt to throw myself into social events and speak up when all I’d rather be doing is sitting back and let others bark it out amongst themselves. In this industry one has to condition themselves to fit into a world where standing out means being more vocal than the next person. Unfortunately the business and leadership is now dominated by those who are comfortable with the spotlight shining bright on them. Not all hope is lost though, maybe it’s about time we realize that we really don’t need giant personalities to transform companies, we need leaders who build not their own egos but the institutions they run. Bill Gates, Barack Obama, Patrice Motsepe, Albert Einstein amongst others are examples of how one doesn’t really need to be an extrovert to succeed in business and being an introvert doesn’t necessarily mean you have zero confidence.
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The cost of being a bad father
I don’t know much about politics but I know a little about raising a family and parenting children. I reckon there are few differences between what’s required to run a harmonious, successful family and to run a harmonious successful country, or any leadership role for that matter. So I thought I’d list the basics here for consideration by all fathers but particularly for our President as he prepares to address us, the children of South Africa, on the state of our nation.
The day I wore a weave
by: Bonolo .D. Mokhele
I’m a person who likes to try new things. These ‘things’, may refer to, food, music, entertainment, hairstyles, clothing trends or as many today would say, steez. However, there is one thing in particular that I’ve tried after 16 years activism, so to speak.
I was never a fan of fake hair or weaves or whatever they call it. I still don’t like it, but that’s a story for another time.